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Going beyond chocolate and flowers

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Valentine’s Day is a holiday that celebrates romantic love. It is a day for lovers. So this Valentine’s give yourself a treat and start early to remind yourself that you are a sensual creature. One of the most powerful things you can do to do this is to bring your attention home to yourself and to […]

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February 22, 2022/by Susan Kay Preslar
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Going in the Direction of Yes for Sex: A Personal ‘Aha’ Moment

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We arrived in bed, arms around each other and legs entangled. I was thinking about sex and thinking we would make love. My husband then said something, in an almost lamenting voice, asking why he was the one that always initiated sex. His voice wasn’t a total whine, and maybe not even a whine, but it […]

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January 11, 2022/by Susan Kay Preslar
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Going in the Direction of YES For Sex

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Michelle was a 43-year-old woman in my last bedroom class series before Covid began.  She stood out as she was open with her thinking and she shared her inner experience more than the other women in the class.  She also got my attention as her obstacle to having a good time in the bedroom was her thoughts, […]

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February 18, 2021/by Susan Kay Preslar
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What promise does marijuana have for women’s sexual pleasure?

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The short answer: More than I thought.  Many of the women I see in my office tell me about their therapeutic use of marijuana. They take it to lessen their body pain, to get to sleep and to feel less anxious. We list it in their chart on their list of medications.  When doing this I […]

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January 15, 2021/by Susan Kay Preslar
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How to say no when your partner wants sex and you don’t

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Living with a mate who wants more sex than you do can become a high-pressure situation with no apparent right answer. You don’t want to say no again; you are tired of saying no. You are tired of that defensive role, of feeling like a stingy female metering out the goodies. Yet you don’t want […]

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July 12, 2019/by Susan Kay Preslar
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A Woman’s Sexual Self

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When I work with a woman to find her libido, I take it for granted that she has a ‘sexual self’. By sexual self I mean the part of her that desires to feel sensual erotic touch. She has a part that wants to be taken to an exciting edge and takes pleasure in falling off […]

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May 24, 2019/by Susan Kay Preslar
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When a female has three of these symptoms or more it is time for her to get her hormones evaluated

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Look at this list and count how many you have: Insomnia/restless sleep ~ heavy periods ~ menstrual cramps ~ irregular periods ~ vaginal dryness or burning ~ hot flashes ~ night sweats or unexplained sweating during the day ~ decreased vaginal or clitoral sensations ~ no interest or a decreased interest in sex ~ anxiety […]

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April 20, 2019/by Susan Kay Preslar
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Your Thoughts and the Bedroom Experiences that Rock Your World

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If you’re a capable woman accustomed to getting things done it can be frustrating when things work differently in the bedroom. Many women with high levels of responsibility struggle to shut down their internal dialogue. They don’t become absorbed in the sex that they are having because their attention is busy elsewhere. It’s wonderful to be […]

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January 5, 2019/by Susan Kay Preslar
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Over-the-Counter Aphrodisiacs with Possibility

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Libido and Aphrodisiacs

Many of the women I see in my office want a “natural” treatment for their sex life. They don’t want a prescribed medication if they can get their libido back in some other way. Many experiment with trying over-the-counter herbs fully aware that there may be more hype about love potions than actual fact, and […]

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October 19, 2018/by Susan Kay Preslar
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Adding your feminine energy into your relationship chemistry raises the excitement level for both of you. It increases desire and appreciation in both the male and the female, and works in non-binary relationships. Even in relationships that have suffered decades-long dry spells, things can turn around quickly, even immediately when this is engaged. It takes […]

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July 10, 2018/by Susan Kay Preslar
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Set the Stage for Delicious Sexual Events

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Are you an alive sensual feminine being who has a yes for pleasure, and wants to have a great bedroom experience with your partner?  Then design your bedroom to be a great space for a romantic and sexual encounter. No kidding – intending your bedroom space to be sensually great for you makes a difference to […]

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June 23, 2018/by Susan Kay Preslar
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A Body Designed for Sexual Pleasure and Female Orgasm

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Female Orgasm

There is quite a lot to celebrate about the female body and how it responds to and is geared for pleasure and female orgasm. It is quite marvelous. When arousal is triggered, cascades of events occur. Neurotransmitters release from a woman’s brain and she gets a nice tingly feeling in her genital tissue. Her nipples […]

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June 15, 2018/by Susan Kay Preslar
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There is no better time in history to be a post-menopausal woman who wants to have a great sex life

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Hundreds of women have told me, “I love my husband, but I am no longer interested in having sex.” Hundreds! Millions more are out there. More than 500 million women in the world are post-menopausal.  Many of these women still want to be interested in sex, they just aren’t. Trisha was 62 years old when […]

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May 18, 2018/by Susan Kay Preslar
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How PCOS Can Affect Your Sex Life

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Having PCOS is like being dealt a hand of genetic cards. You can play those cards so that you feel your best, sexually and in terms of your energy and mood. Your lifestyle, your diet, and hormonal management are all important pieces to manage the hand you have been dealt. First thing to know is […]

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May 11, 2018/by Susan Kay Preslar
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Birth control flattening your sex drive?

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Birth Control and Sex Drive

Heather was thirty-one when she first came to my office for help to locate her sexual desire. Her sandy blonde hair had an angled cut that came right below her chin. She walked in, sat down in the office chair right up against my clinic desk, and looked directly at me and said, “Tell me […]

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May 5, 2018/by Susan Kay Preslar
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Question: Do I need to get my testosterone level tested?

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Signed, a woman with little to no desire for sex Of the low libido women who come to see me, roughly two or three out of twenty will have testosterone levels low enough that I identify it as a contributing factor to their low sex drive. Could that be you? It is important for you […]

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March 10, 2018/by Susan Kay Preslar
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The Female Brain and Your Level of Sexual Desire

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Sexual desire is funny mystery. You want to be relaxed enough so that you can then enjoy a build up of tension. It seems like two different directions at the same time, yet that is how sex works. The following current medical research looks at these two directions: MRIs were taken of the brains of […]

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January 26, 2018/by Susan Kay Preslar
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Sex Doesn’t Have to be Painful

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“Treat Your Vaginal Dryness Early” are the words I would put on large billboards along I-5 and along other major highways in the US. I want to get the word out to women sooner about this common problem. Many women I see have waited months or years to seek treatment, and I cringe at the […]

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January 10, 2018/by Susan Kay Preslar
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How to Keep the Bedroom Alive and Interesting for Both of You

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These tips are from a handout given out at a recent couples workshop. Read
through the list together as it can start an intimate conversation or even a more interesting engagement.

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November 16, 2017/by Susan Kay Preslar
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New Treatment for Menopause and Vaginal Dryness

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On July 24, 2017 the Vaginal DHEA suppository we have been hearing about for five years became commercially available. Called Prasterone, with the brand name Intraosa, it is available by prescription. It is for the treatment of sexual pain during intercourse due to menopausal changes. Prasterone (DHEA) is converted locally in the vagina into androgens […]

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November 16, 2017/by Susan Kay Preslar
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A Focus on Your Arousal

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When women get in bed with their mates and start touch that leads to sex, they are often not yet physically turned on. They may be starting at a zero level of sexual arousal — or a two or three — out of ten. Their partner may already be at 7 or 8 or higher. […]

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May 18, 2017/by Susan Kay Preslar
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Women and Sexual Desire: Adding clarity into this mystery

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The women I see in my office express a yearning for a deep connection and a big love affair, for a mate that treasures them more than anyone else. They want this passion and excitement in their everyday lives. Preferably they want to have this with their current husband, or partner. They do not want […]

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February 17, 2015/by Susan Kay Preslar
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A Body Designed for Sexual Pleasure

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There is quite a lot to celebrate about the fame body and how it responds to and is geared for sexual pleasure. It is quite marvelous. When arousal is triggered, cascades of events occur. Neurotransmitters release from a woman’s brain and she gets a nice tingly feeling in her genital tissue. Her nipples become firm, […]

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February 17, 2015/by Susan Kay Preslar
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Create an environment for an “EVENT”

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Women want to have an interesting and compelling time in the bedroom. They want experiences where they melt and merge with their partners, have exquisite sensations, and have feelings that are too big and beautiful to be described in words. If you want to invest in having this kind of a sex life, one practical […]

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January 29, 2015/by Susan Kay Preslar
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As a female, your body is designed for exquisite, mind-blowing sexual pleasure, yet often women’s experiences in the bedroom are less than that. Why? Fanning the Female Flame exposes the many obstacles that hinder you from experiencing all that is possible.

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