Valentine’s Day is a holiday that celebrates romantic love. It is a day for lovers. So this Valentine’s give yourself a treat and start early to remind yourself that you are a sensual creature. One of the most powerful things you can do to do this is to bring your attention home to yourself and to […]
We arrived in bed, arms around each other and legs entangled. I was thinking about sex and thinking we would make love. My husband then said something, in an almost lamenting voice, asking why he was the one that always initiated sex. His voice wasn’t a total whine, and maybe not even a whine, but it […]
Michelle was a 43-year-old woman in my last bedroom class series before Covid began. She stood out as she was open with her thinking and she shared her inner experience more than the other women in the class. She also got my attention as her obstacle to having a good time in the bedroom was her thoughts, […]
The short answer: More than I thought. Many of the women I see in my office tell me about their therapeutic use of marijuana. They take it to lessen their body pain, to get to sleep and to feel less anxious. We list it in their chart on their list of medications. When doing this I […]
Living with a mate who wants more sex than you do can become a high-pressure situation with no apparent right answer. You don’t want to say no again; you are tired of saying no. You are tired of that defensive role, of feeling like a stingy female metering out the goodies. Yet you don’t want […]
When I work with a woman to find her libido, I take it for granted that she has a ‘sexual self’. By sexual self I mean the part of her that desires to feel sensual erotic touch. She has a part that wants to be taken to an exciting edge and takes pleasure in falling off […]
Look at this list and count how many you have: Insomnia/restless sleep ~ heavy periods ~ menstrual cramps ~ irregular periods ~ vaginal dryness or burning ~ hot flashes ~ night sweats or unexplained sweating during the day ~ decreased vaginal or clitoral sensations ~ no interest or a decreased interest in sex ~ anxiety […]
If you’re a capable woman accustomed to getting things done it can be frustrating when things work differently in the bedroom. Many women with high levels of responsibility struggle to shut down their internal dialogue. They don’t become absorbed in the sex that they are having because their attention is busy elsewhere. It’s wonderful to be […]
Many of the women I see in my office want a “natural” treatment for their sex life. They don’t want a prescribed medication if they can get their libido back in some other way. Many experiment with trying over-the-counter herbs fully aware that there may be more hype about love potions than actual fact, and […]
Adding your feminine energy into your relationship chemistry raises the excitement level for both of you. It increases desire and appreciation in both the male and the female, and works in non-binary relationships. Even in relationships that have suffered decades-long dry spells, things can turn around quickly, even immediately when this is engaged. It takes […]